Many opinion, and, actually, many creative ideas will pop-up when we talk about this “ambigous thing”. Why ambigous? Yes, because, even some people definite this word by undefinite word. But, although this word is ambigous, and also has many definition, scientist also like to discuss about this thing, and even they did some research about Love.
Zick Rubin,(1970) Social Psychologist said that, there are 2 factors related with love, liking and loving. Liking is just all about affection and respect but loving are about intimate, closure, and care about another. Even, Rubin has made some scale to conducted his research using that items.
Stenberg (1986) also concern about love. He wrote about the most three important in love. There are intimacy, passion (we called Id), and commitment. Intimacy is refers to feeling to be close with the others, passion refers to romantic and sexual elements in a relationship, and commitment are divided by more two components, decision to making a love relation, and increase the commitment to always love that people.
So, by that three components of love, Stenberg also classified the type of love. They are, liking, which is has strong intimacy but with a little passion and commitment, infatuation with the strongest passion, empty love is the strongest commitment,and romantic love is about strong intimacy and passion, but weaker in commitment.
Many scientist has brought many theory about love. In fact, many people can’t accept if love just can be measure by a scale or making it on the research. Love can’t be a science because love is all about feeling, emotion, and an abstract thing. Not for a research. In one discussion with my friend, she even made some protest if we, especially as a psychology made love into a thing that can measure by research. She called the scale “Skala yang Hina”.
In my own opinion, I still agree that love is undefinite. Many definition has mixing in my head about the definition of love. Start from my assumptions, religion’s view, psychology’s view, until phylosophy’s view, I, personally can’t definite it. It still ambigous. But, God’s Love is the biggest love that I ever got. God’s love can be definite, cause it is simple. He just tell to us that love can be appear when we make a good thing to the others. Who is the others? All people.
It is just my opinion. It’s okay if all of you, guys, wanna have another opinion about the definition about love. It’s free. We can always be a phylosophers about love. Why? Because the essence of physlosophy is all abou asking. And when we asking about love, what is love?”, we have made some phylosophy…
From this article, I release some reflection question, “It’s free if we definite love in our way or in our opinion. But, what is the essence of love?”